9 Symptoms of Being “That Guy”

Asking questions is vital to a team’s success. Knowing when to ask them is an art.

We have all been in those brainstorming meetings where we are trying our best to be brave and share an idea we know is only half baked, but if we can just get it out it might spin off into something great. So we take big gulp and go for it only to be shut down by “that guy." So how do you make sure you are not becoming that guy in a meeting? Here are some characteristics of “that guy”.

• You lead with the negative not the opportunity. Don’t do this.
• Your focus is more on what is not working with the situation your group is working on, especially when you don’t have any real ideas of your own about what might be successful.
• If you are going to shoot something down you better have a better idea to support and follow up with.
• You speak for people you have never spoken to about an idea. Don’t assume or presume you know what people want, like, or feel. If you don’t have data don’t pretend you do.
• Drift towards the assumption that creativity is more expensive, margin diminishing, or complicated than doing the practical thing.
• Count on repeating or reusing an idea rather than conceiving a new one.
• You talk over people or constantly interrupt people.
• You show up late or don’t engage in the process. This REEKS of entitlement. Respect others and the process.
• Choose to be in an aggressive posture as opposed to a creative posture. No one wants to fight to share the idea they are doing their best to be brave and share.

Are you “that guy?" Do you have this person in your meeting? If so you have a responsibility to adjust yourself or have a hard conversation and coach them out of this posture. You might even need to stop inviting them to the meeting. You can’t let this guy destroy team moral, sidetrack innovation, or prevent the next best idea for your church to be shared!