Lessons from Church History: The Anmchara

Celtic Christianity emerged as a powerful spiritual force in in Ireland and in parts of Britain and its surrounding islands and thriving for centuries, from the early medieval period. They were people of pilgrimage and radical mission risking their lives as they shared the gospel with clans who had never heard it before. They were committed to social justice, hospitality and prayer. Their devotion to Scripture was expressed in art and hymns and poetry and extended to intensive Bible study and commentary. The Celts were activists, strong individuals, out changing the world.

Yet for the Celts Christians, community also played a significant role in their faith. In the light of Jesus, community (structured by clans) was not just about human interaction; it was part of their spiritual experience. One of the ways community played a role was in the form of the anmchara, or the SOUL FRIEND. This friendship was based on mutual love and trust. They respected one another's wisdom; it was even a place for challenge or confrontation if needed. The friendship provided a context for spiritual direction and mentoring, but still actively pointed each another to Jesus.

These relationships were not taken lightly. Celtic saints would travel great distances in order to spend time with a soul friend, their place of refuge and accountability. Bridget, one of the Celtic leaders thought that anyone without a soul friend was like a body without a head. Alongside pilgrimage, mission and leadership, these Celtic leaders found support and depth, stability and accountability; they found an anchor in this relationship.

I believe that chapters from our spiritual heritage can help us navigate the world we exist in today. The paths others have walked, the battles they've faced can function as signposts, guidelines, even warnings for our own journeys as leaders. The adventurous ancient paths the Celtic Christians walk have lots to teach us as we seek to minister in an increasingly post Christian culture, including their resolute commitment to the "soul friend".

Now that the summer is over, our lives are getting full again. After all, there's work to be done. There are songs to be written, works of art to be created to point to the goodness and the glory of God. We want to dig into his word and share it with those we lead. We are engaged in programs and projects and ministries that will serve those in greatest need in our community, our cities, and our world. We're planting churches, multiplying campuses, launching missional communities; we're sharing the gospel with anyone who willing to stand around long enough to listen. And there's often something about the fall, with the rising activity and excitement, that's invigorating and inspiring. Long hours, but so worth it.

Still, we need a soul friend to keep us anchored.

We're great at overstretching ourselves to minister to and listen to others. Some of us are ready to be a soul friend to many, yet lack a soul friend of our own. This happens for a variety of reasons: Some of us have been trained to be wary of cultivating friendships and advised to protect ourselves and your time instead. Other have been bruised by controlling relationships which posed as accountability, but instead of leading you closer to the ultimate Friend, left you with accused and condemned. For others our bruising came in the blows of betrayal when our secrets were shared and our trust was broken. It seemed safer to stand alone.

No matter where we're at, no matter how far along we are in ministry, we need our anmchara. We need a godly soul friend to stand with us, pray for us, listen to us and talk with us. Really talk. People who we remind us of God's call on our lives and cheer us on as we respond to Him. We need a relationship where we can agree to ask one another the challenging difficult questions, and be willing to give the raw and honest answer. 

Perhaps we can prayerfully consider these next steps and see where the Lord might lead us...

• Is it time to be open to an anmchara type relationship in your life?
• Do you need to carve out some time in God given key relationships, arrange a regular time to meet and pray? And then prioritize it?
• Do you need to risk vulnerability by being more open in your key relationships? Say what's really happening, bad or good?

As we dive into the demands of work and life and ministry, my prayer is that we don't default to going it alone. I pray that we'd find strength and encouragement in our walk with God and in our journey with those key friends God places in our lives as catalysts to our growth and maturity. The anmchara.