My whole approach came out as harsh and critical and judgmental and condemning. When I preached, I would get up and read these lists of what God’s for and what He’s against. I just had a different spirit. I would preach down to people, like I had it together and they didn’t. Then I started this church and got around real unchurched people and thought, “Man, I’m condemning them.” I’m not the Holy Spirit. I teach truth, but I want to do it in love and grace.